Love Blog

The second i met him i fell in love. our parents introduced us. i didnt even remember his name i was too taken by his magical green eyes. i just knew i wouldnt be able to get out off it. i was head over heels. so, the school year started and we kinda talked and stuff. you know, the occasional "hi" and stuff. but then he became "popular" i mean, i'm not saying i'm not popular, but he became the kind of popular where everyone thinks you are bitches(only the girls).  of course all the popular girls got all over him, but after awhile they got bored of him and dumped him out of mean populars to nice ones. but it was like he had totally changed. he didnt seem to know i existed. and i tried so hard to fix it, but i couldnt. but by then, i was totally in love with him. somehow he still seemed perfect. Now I cant get enough of him. i love him so much but all i get from him is a glance in the hallway and a slight smile across lunch tables. but i cant get 0ver him. i am in love with him, hopelessly.

We are a sad bunch of fools aren't we? We long so much to love and be loved that when we feel the slightest twing of emotion we freak by either jumping overboard or holding back. The play on our emotions is a multi-million dollar industry, each promoter guarantees matches, and true love...but none of them really guarantee forever, do they?

 

What is love? This is a difficult question. Here are my favourite love quotations i found on Internet. 

Love definition

Very cliche, I know, but most of us will have had this big question in our heads at a certain time in our lives. (or maybe the same question comes in different forms in different phases of life? ) Whatever it is, you think you know what you want from life, and you are ‘in control’ and along comes this question in an orkut community.. “define love”..and you say oh yes…i know what love is…”true love” as they show in the films…”real love” as you thought you had felt…and you start typing..and you suddenly feel at a loss to explain what you feel about love.

Sometimes you just go …bah!…it’s all crap…just a concept that doesn’t really take form…but then we do need someone in our lives don’t we? Someone to share everything with? Is it not love that bonds us then? Or is it the compelling necessity of companionship that brings us together. Being in love makes you dependent, it makes you vulnerable…is that true??

Of all the answers that were given to that question..one stood out, and was appreciated and applauded by many members of that community. In fact I made friends with that person just because I liked the answer so much. Not that it was a perfect answer..It is very hard to find the kind of love that she has described..and harder to make it work..but if you want an almost complete definition of love, here’s what Anindita Bhattacharya had to say:

To me love is:

You think about yourself, get to know yourself, build yourself up to be so strong that u are confident that u can handle your own life, that u don’t need anyone, that no one can hurt u without ur permission, that you are the master of your own life, and then, u meet someone… who makes u want to surrender all of yourself, without hesitation, when you become ready to lay yourself totally open in front of him/her, all your vulnerabilities, your fears, your dreams, your weaknesses, your wishes and ambitions and principles, things that make you think and feel and wonder and laugh and cry, when the tiniest of his/her unhappiness zoom straight inside your heart, when you feel like bringing the whole world at his/her feet, just to make him/her happy, when you are ready to give him/her all the freedom and right over your life, comfortable in the knowing that the other person is so strong that he/she will honour you, the you that you’ve opened up, & will never take advantage of your openness… will care for you because he/she wants to, not because it’s supposed to be that way, when adjustment doesn’t feel like adjustment, when u willingly make yourself flexible for his/her sake, when the freedom between you makes your relationship stronger, when u both start feeling that u need each other, not because u lack something, but because of how much both of you enjoy being part of one another’s lives, & both of you want to practically take it forward,

That’s love for real.

And I agree with her to quite an extent. I’m not quite “learned” enough to “profess” anything, but yes, i feel love is learning to love yourself, knowing that you are strong enough to survive anything life throws at you, and then finding someone who you don’t mind being vulnerable with, because you trust him/her enough, and you are comfortable enough to shed all ego barriers.

Dubai wedding
With Dubai's increasing relevance as a wedding and honeymoon destination, it was only a matter of time before our eye turned towards the U.A.E. for a non-traditional honeymoon location.

there are many ways to show or express our love to our special someone,,,but how can we find sencerity in saying"I love You"..

promise!!

10 Things You Need to Know About Love

Just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to, doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have.

Ralph and Edna were both patients in a mental hospital. One day while they were walking past the hospital swimming pool. Ralph suddenly jumped into the deep end. He sank to the bottom of the pool and stayed there. Edna promptly jumped in to save him. She swam to the bottom and pulled him out.


When the Head Nurse Director became aware of Edna's heroic act she immediately ordered her to be discharged from the hospital, as she now considered her to be mentally stable. When she went to tell Edna the news she said, 'Edna, I have good news and bad news. The good news is you're being discharged, since you were able to rationally respond to a crisis by jumping in and saving the life of the person you love. I have concluded that your act displays soundmindedness. The bad news is, Ralph hung himself in the bathroom with his bathrobe belt right after you saved him. I am so sorry, but he's dead.'

Edna replied, 'He didn't hang himself, I put him there to dry. How soon can I go home?'

Do you know that the best time to know yourself is when you're in LOVE?

You discover feelings you never knew you had. The heights of jealousy, passion, anger and affection. Its up to you to be a master or slave to them.

Committing into a relationship entails a lot of hard work to keep it because LOVE is an act of the will,
to live for another, to give oneself to meet the needs of another. Opening your heart means making room
for love, patience, understanding and sacrifice.

Loving a person is like that. Held loosely, with respect and freedom for the other person, it likely to remain
intact but hold too tightly, too possessively, and the relationship slips away and is lost. You never lose by loving.
You always lose by holding back.

Is it love?.... Probably NOT if...

Assumes the other person will change to please you. Causes feelings of insecurity or jealousy,
Appeared "love at first". Is easily forgotten when the other person is not around. Makes you feel "stressed out" when you're together.
Consumes your life, selfish,
seems to have peaked and is diminishing.
Limits other friendships.
Is based on partner's appearance,
Is based on feelings of possessiveness,
Has sexual gratification as its main goal.
Pressures you to do things you don't want to and blinds you to your partner's faults.

Maybe its LOVE.... if..

Accepts the other person as he or she is
Builds trust.
Started out as friendship
Lasts even when distance separates you.
Makes you feel relaxed and at ease with each other.
Allows you to do things without your partner
Makes you place your partner's needs before your own.
Gets stronger as time goes on. Allows you to have friends of both genders.
Considers appearance as only part of the attraction.
Recognizes the other person's individuality.
Is rewarding without a sexual component.
Allows you to reflect things that make you uncomfortable.
Accepts your partner's fault.

So... what is love??

In the great literature of all progressive societies, love is a verb. Reactive people make it a feeling. They're driven by feelings. Hollywood has generally scripted us to believe that we are not responsible, that love is a feeling. But the Hollywood script does not describe the reality. If our feelings control our actions, it is because we have abdicated our responsibility and empowered them to do so.

Proactive people make love a verb. Love is something you do: the sacrifices you make, the giving of self, like a mother bringing a newborn into the world. If you study love, study those who sacrifice for others, even for people who offend or do not love in return. Love is a value that is actualized through loving actions. Proactive people subordinate feelings to values. Love, the feeling itself, can be recaptured.

HOW WOMEN THINK

FINE
This is the word women use to end an argument when they feel they are right and you need to shut up. Never use "fine" to describe how a woman looks - this will cause you to have one of those arguments.

FIVE MINUTES
This is half an hour. It is equivalent to the five minutes that your football game is going to last before you take out the trash, so it's an even trade.

NOTHING
This means "something," and you should be on your toes. "Nothing" is usually used to describe the feeling a woman has of wanting to turn you inside out, upside down, and backwards. "Nothing" usually signifies an argument that will last "Five Minutes" and end with "Fine"

GO AHEAD (With Raised Eyebrows)

This is a dare. One that will result in a woman getting upset over "Nothing" and will end with the word "Fine"

GO AHEAD (Normal Eyebrows)
This means "I give up" or "do what you want because I don't care" You will get a "Raised Eyebrow Go Ahead" in just a few minutes, followed by "Nothing" and "Fine" and she will talk to you in about "Five Minutes" when she cools off. LOUD SIGH This is not actually a word, but is a non-verbal statement often misunderstood by men. A "Loud Sigh" means she thinks you are an idiot at that moment, and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you over "Nothing"

SOFT SIGH
Again, not a word, but a non-verbal statement. "Soft Sighs" mean that she is content. Your best bet is to not move or breathe, and she will stay content.

THAT'S OKAY
This is one of the most dangerous statements that a woman can make to a man. "That's Okay" means that she wants to think long and hard before paying you back for whatever it is that you have done. "That's Okay" is often used with the word "Fine" and in conjunction with a "Raised Eyebrow."

GO AHEAD
At some point in the near future! re, you are going to be in some mighty big trouble. PLEASE DO This is not a statement, it is an offer. A woman is giving you the chance to come up with whatever excuse or reason you have for doing whatever it is that you have done. You have a fair chance with the truth, so be careful and you shouldn't get a "That's Okay"

THANKS
A woman is thanking you. Do not faint. Just say you're welcome. THANKS A LOT This is much different from "Thanks." A woman will say, "Thanks A Lot" when she is really ticked off at you. It signifies that you have offended her in some callous way, and will be followed by the "Loud Sigh." Be careful not to ask what is wrong after the "Loud Sigh," as she will only tell you "Nothing"

 

Send this to the men you know to warn them about future arguments they can avoid if they remember the terminology. And send it to your women friends to give them a good laugh!

12 signs your falling in love

A Good Person

What really constitutes a good person? This is one of the questions I have in my life that I long to find the answer for.

Does being an upright citizen equate to being a good man?

Does going to church regularly and paying your colleagues compliments that they are due make you virtuous and moral?

Is it enough to do good things for other people to make you an ethical and just human being?

With all the norms that the society we live in sets for being good, sometimes, it's just too easy to be bad. Whether that takes the form of gossiping about your co-worker, cheating on a test, changing lanes too fast or merely having malicious thoughts of others, I've done all sort of things that I can never be proud of, nor justify.

Sometimes, it's just way too easy to be bad. The idea of being good is occasionally easier said than done. Doing something I already regard as greatly noble may not be good enough to the person sitting next to me.

Let's admit it, we can never please everyone, no matter how we try.

I've just recently stopped apologizing for my existence and started to accept and love myself. I have realized that the key to becoming a truly good person is in also accepting the parts of my personality that I am not very proud of.

I have stopped resisting my nature, instead, tried to work my way around it. I have come to admit that I am not perfect and I do succumb to temptation sometimes. What matters is the fact that everyday, I try to be a better person than I was yesterday. If I fail, I try again.

Somebody once said, "I may not be a nice person, but I am a good human being".

Being good is like beauty. It is a biased, prejudiced, over-rated and subjective issue. I've learned not to put too much pressure on myself with all the standards that our society has. Instead, I try to simplify them by struggling not to step on anyone's shoes. Then maybe... just maybe, I can be a good person in the process.

Love quotes

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